Communication

I think that everyone's perception of a fight can be different. I know with my first husband when I thought we were having a discussion, he thought we were having a fight. I think the key to good communication is that you are able to talk about anything. Good, bad, indifferent, controversial topics...everything.

It does not mean that you will agree 100% on everything that will ever come in to your lives. But that you are willing to compromise and to work things out. To put aside your pride and need to be right all the time, and admit when you are wrong and to be humble. I believe that we all need a lesson in humility just to keep us in check, so we don't get cocky and full of ourselves.

I know that communication is my down fall. I brush a lot of things off in stead of saying something, not because I am afraid but because I do not try to sweat the small stuff. Then I feel like eventually it becomes a big thing because all that brushing off just ends up in a big pile right next to me. I think that if I would take the time to tell people how I feel--like "you know that bothers me but I don't mind letting it slide this time"-- then at least they know and will be aware of how I feel and that if it does keep happening then it will not be a shock when I say "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH".

Goals are good

I have been a little busy with the classes I am taking but it is really going extremely well, considering I feel like I don’t stop running. I feel like I am more productive…weird!! I guess no time to be lazy ;) I am going to do some major and long over due “Spring Cleaning” in the next few months, more so after my classes are all done.  I hope to be able to finish them early if possible. The end of the Semester is May 9^th but I want to be done before Taylor's B-day. We will see how it goes. GOALS…GOALS…GOALS I have lots of them and I will achieve ALL of them…Just hope I can meet my expected time lines.

I think that has been my biggest problem over these past few years. I had achieved all my childhood dreams and did not make any new adult dreams. So now I have a few in my hat and will be striving everyday to push towards these, might I say, pretty hefty goals I have set for myself and my home. Not a lot of weight on the kids mostly me but their help is needed, as in them achieving goals that I have set for myself to have them be able to achieve. For instance being able to manage to keep their rooms, school assignments and hygiene managed, basically for them to grow up be self-sufficient adults. Not that I expect them to be perfect but that I have prepared them to be able to “Take Care of them selves” or to be semi stable adults.

I have seen the effects of several young children that have not been prepared or I feel like the ball was dropped at every important point in their lives. I know I have not been a very good parent. I feel that that was part of my floundering these past few years. I never thought of actually having a goal for raising my kids. I guess that is the problem that I keep having. I think things will just work out with out a plan but I the truth is you are just floundering unless you have a plan or a goal... an end in sight.

So do me a favor, set a goal so you don't waist a minute of your life floundering. Look at it often and remember the intent of this goal. See your self achieving this goal. What are you doing to succeed? How long will it take you to get there and what steps can you take to make this move forward on a regular basis? This is just a few things to help you with your goal. 

Christina

A little of my ciaos

The year has started off pretty hectic.

1. Work MAIL – On 01/13/12 we send out thousands of letters to all of our vendors to introduce them to a new payment process we are setting up. Not all of the companies are current companies that we pay by check. Some we only paid by credit card, so hence vendor my not be in our A/P (accounts Payable) system. I get lots of extra mail to sort out and then resend.

2. Work CALLS – On 01/16/12 preparing to start the new payment process for all of our vendors, or as many as we could get on board: which meant me fielding some over flow calls-listening to messages that had been left on the “contact” persons phone because they did not answer the call. They are sent to me to in turn return the call and answer questions that they had about the program.

3. Work TAXES – On 01/23/12 started to print and sort out W-2’s for about 50 different payrolls we process including ours. I printed them all and guess what they all do not have correct address on them. I get them all back in the mail and I get to look them up and send them back to the originating paper.  

4. School CLASSES – On 1/17/11 online class started (I took 3 of them) and first assignments due 01/18/12 (2) and 01/20/12 (2) and 01/23/12 (3). Yes that means that 2 classes are twice a week and the other only once! CRAZY!!!

5. Home CIAOS – Trying to balance the homework-theirs and mine, get food cooked and clothes cleaned all in a timely fashion. Spend time with kids and preparing my church lesson. Oh and say my prayers and read my scriptures. Oh and don’t forget we need to do that as a family too.